The most magnetic thing on earth is liking your own energy.
Or what the kids say nowadays; “Vibe”
I’ll stick to energy though because it’s a lot deeper than that.
Swami Vivekananda had similar notions in his teachings.
That were along the lines of “If you don’t befriend your own inner state, it’s hard for others to feel at ease with you”
“All power is within you”
“Strength is life”
“You cannot believe in God until you believe in yourself”
He had a lot of themes that are interchangeable with what all of these new age western teachers are crossing into. I believe the sentiment is there…
Although personally I’m a mixture of all things philosophical and spiritual. I’ve dove into the religious areas of things and well…
The level of indoctrination wasn’t really my thing.
So what does liking your own energy mean?
It’s physiological:
Your baseline arousal. Your sleep. Your breath. Your posture. Your nervous system tone.
It’s emotional:
Your current mood and the way you relate to it. Resisting vs allowing it.
Interpersonal presence:
The nonverbal signals you broadcast. Eye contact. Pace. Voice. Your overall congruence.
Spiritual/Values:
Feeling aligned with what you hold sacred. Your purpose. Your integrity. Your service you’re giving out to the world.
Those key points over there can send you on a rabbit hole of self discovery and if you decide to go down that route. You’d be surprised at the person you could become if you start being a little more present.
That’s the thing with this whole always on internet life we live.
We forget about the inner workings of who we are and what we stand for.
This is part of what makes us creative and loving humans.
We pick up on each other’s states. If we are calm we co-regulate others around us. The opposite happens if we are in self contempt. That just spreads tension.
Congruence reads as trust. When your words, body and intent match up. People relax. If you do the opposite. People pick up on it.
Boundaries and generosity come into the mix too. Liking your own energy often comes across as narcissism (Which is such fun word to see people throw around on social media without knowing much about it…)
If you like your energy. It frees attention from your self monitoring so you can be more present, curious, kind and playful.
How many times have you either seen a group of people or couples sat around a restaurant table staring into the sadness rectangle in their hands?
A lot right?
If you truly liked your own energy or your vibe. You wouldn’t be in that position. You’d be wanting to get to know others and explore.
We want to be connected with ourselves and the others that are around us.
That’s what the true meaning of this all is.
As John Keating aka Robin Williams said in Dead Poets Society:
“We are food for worms, lads”
We are all going to die.
So while we’re here on this earth. We might as well get to liking our own energy. Fall in love with ourselves and if we can. Help others to see the beauty in it all.
It’s the most magnetic thing we can do.
Stephen Walker.
P.S. I know this was a little heavier than the usual silly goose type emails. Go make a cup of tea. You deserved it.
P.P.S. If you haven’t seen Dead Poets Society. Shame on you.