Whatever happens around you.
Don’t take it personally.
Nothing other people do is because of you.
Deeply…
It’ because of themselves.
Situations might feel so personal. It honestly has nothing to do with you.
What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are only projections of their own internal thoughts.
We all have our own reality that unfolds daily. When we decide to take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our reality, and we try to impose our reality onto theirs.
When we don’t take things personally, it gives us more power over our thoughts, feelings and actions.
When we don’t take things personally, we recognise the individuality of others and we can accept that other people are different from us.
We have little control over how others view us and relate to us and frankly, that shouldn’t concern you one bit.
We have more control over how we view ourselves and the situation, and how we respond to it.
The real truth is that we tend to make assumptions and judgements about other people without knowing the fully story. Their full story. And more often than not, what we assume about a person is wrong.
Life is tough. The world is unforgiving and finding a place for us to fit into as we grow, heal and learn gets difficult. We lost our friends and family. We lose the people close to us who were our home and we’re often cast aside to figure it out on our own.
And when we do pick ourselves up. Brush ourselves off and get back into the world. We look around and realise everything has become transactional.
As humans. We are not designed for the world built on transactions.
We are built for love and connection, which leads to growth.
I won’t pretend to know the answers, but I sure as hell know what I want.
Love and growth and becoming a safe space is the end goal.
Stephen Walker.